The Cancer male ~ Prince Charming. A gentlemen, polite, well spoken, essentially tailor made. Cancer male is the epitome of a traditional male. Moral, earnest, and ladies - he's the marrying kind.
The Cancer male likes to nest and become a good provider. He's an artistic one and very creative. His spirit must be allowed to flourish. His astrological landscape is that of a hopeless romantic whose head is full of daydreams and visions of happiness. The Cancer man is an ever so happy family man, he's the perfect lover, husband and boyfriend. Sex is an act of worship to the Cancer male. He's the sign of sexual potential.
According to the Sextrology astrology horoscope, unlike his counterpart, the Cancer female crab, who is a bundle of raw emotion, the Cancer male crab is more centered and cool. A Cancer man's emotions are not worn on his sleeve like that of the female crab who is a notorious well-spring of bubbling emotions. In astrology, the Cancer man's Fourth House is one that rules the general public at large. It's no accident that the most successful leading men on screen are Cancer men.
Ladies, here's the great part. Our Cancer male was born under the Mother Principle. Because of this, he views life from a matriarchal point of view. In other words, he recognizes the feminine power as the supreme ruler of the cosmos. He kindly answers to the females direction.
The Sextrology astrology horoscope explains, our Cancer males age range is that of 21-28, which represents a time in life when a young man is teetering on the brink of maturity - and at the ripe age of marrying, ready to embark on a life of togetherness with his female ruler. He's seeking his Cinderella. Similarly, a Cancer male may even go so far as to "save himself" for marriage. A Cancer man is romantic and traditional - the chivalrous man.
Cancer Male is Conditioned Through Experience for His Future
Cancer male is a cardinal (active) water (emotional) sign and his planetary ruler is the moon. A planet which has an intimate, yet sympathetic, relationship with mother earth. A planet which represents moods. Cancer male shoots for a noble greatness, however, he must find a nurturing relationship with a female queen in order to complete it. His number is 4, that of structure and protection. As well, it represents the four seasons or the "moods" of mother earth.He is incredibly responsible, yet at times, he is incredibly needy being an emotional water sign. In an instant, the Cancer male can touch a woman's soft spot. As if preprogrammed with all the right moves at birth and the correct balance of emotions that he uses as tools to understand and heed the direction of his queen.
The Sextrology astrology horoscope explains, appearing seemingly wet behind the ears with his notorious lost boy expression, our Cancer male is up to something. And his association with the God Perceval tells us: Perceval name means "to pierce the valley." This is a hidden agenda that he wears under a cloak of dashing good looks, morals and manners. After all, a Cancer man is considered "The Player" by Sextrology and he hopes to inspire a motherly love from his intended queen.
Cancer Male Can be Made Whole by the Feelings he Invokes in his Lover Towards Him
Not one of lust, but one of sentimentality - mothering, caring, nurturing. He longs for a sense of motherly protection from his mate. However, the Cancer male is good at masking his feelings towards the female population when in the company of his male counterparts. A Cancer man won't be admitting that he digs chick flicks and love songs.Cancer men are Mr. Nice Guy - as American as apple pie. The kind of guy you'd gladly bring home to mom. As symbolized by the crab, our Cancer male is very, very soft inside - but is good at protecting this truth with his hard outer shell of protection. Cancer male is creative and inventive, thus his association with his cardinal water qualities - that of action filtered through emotion. Many a "starving artist" is a Cancer male. However, the Sextrology astrology horoscope explains, his Fourth House is also one of commerce. He expects to get paid handsomely for his creativity, and most times, does. And it's the constant rush or flooding of emotion that he pulls his inspiration and creativity from.
As a result of this, the Cancer male may feed off of his female host for the wealth of inspiration she brings to him in the form of emotion. A Cancer man sneaks up on women. Cloaking himself under his hard shell and disarming women by making them feel he has no agenda. He's cool and detached prior to the pounce, pretending to be nonchalant but succeeding in planting the seeds of desire deep within her. She can imagine a future with this one. To the Cancer male, a female is not simply a vessel for sexual release.
She is a worshipped well-spring of life ~ one from which the Cancer male will drink freely and find inspiration. The Cancer man makes a woman feel secure - his number one asset. She lets down her guard and does a free fall right into Prince Charming's lap. He considers himself a hero. He knows what a woman wants. He's sensitive, a good listener (although mostly pretending) - he's different from other guys. He possess the ability to make a woman feel as if she is endlessly interesting and he's very good at making a woman feel as if moving into the next inevitable steps in the relationship is HER idea - but don't let him fool you. He's coaxing you there, knowing all the while, it's HIS idea - he's just giving you the time you need trusting that you will ultimately make the decision he wishes to see you make.
He's Grateful for a Woman's Affections and as a Result, he's a Loaded Cannon in the Bedroom
So much so, that at times, he'll apologize for his behavior. Playing a "mother may I" role. Playing the eternal 21 year old (his signs association with the age of 21-28), he represents "The Graduate" - developing gradually. Mrs. Robinson anyone?The Sextrology astrology horoscope explains, female power is sexually arousing to the Cancer male. A Cancer man fully embraces his sensitivity and taps into an emotional place. He relishes in being mothered by a female. But beware, the more a Cancer male feels safe with his queen ruler, the more apt he may be to play out his darker fantasies elsewhere. Thus, keeping his queen on the pedestal by dare not asking her to partake of such dark activities. He has too much respect for her.
This type of activity may rear it's ugly head as the Cancer male moves into mid life crisis age. Don't let the Cancer male slip through your fingers in this way.
Open Yourself to His Wishes and all Will be Well
Cancer male is a hopeless romantic forever lost in daydreams where he is the leading man, the hero ~ tailor made to the specifications of a woman's wishes.* * * * *
Many thanks to the book Sextrology: The Astrology of Sex and the Sexes written by Starsky and Cox. The above piece contains my thoughts along with excerpts and borrowings from the book and for any of you that don't own this, I'd advise you have at least one copy of it somewhere in your house. I consider it the "bible" of astrological profiles. If you've ever wanted to decipher the mysteries of men and women, sex and astrological behavior by sign and gender - this is a must have piece for your collection.
159 Comments:
Wow, these posts are great - keep up the good work. Very informative and dead on in accuracy. I'm amazed!
I wish I could find a charming cancer male. . .I'll keep my eyes open!
:o I am in shock. I can not believe what I just read. You know more about my BF than I might have. This is my Cancer Male Lover and although I almost feel sick to realize that he really is that good I still must admit yeah he really is that good. Cancer Males are as good as gold as long as you always treat them that way. If you wanna know what love is fall in love with a cancer male. HA HA HA I will not let him read or know about this though. It seems he already knows too much ;p
Excellent analysis of a cancer male. Its spot on for my boyfriend, just one thing though you didnt mention that terrible temper if you hurt them in anyway....trust me even for us taureans they are not to be crossed when angry they can be devastatingly cruel. Ladies treat these crabs with care or face their wrath:)
This just freaking scares me, it's so dead accurate!
*Cancer male* ;)
This just freaking scares me, it's so dead accurate!
*Cancer male* ;)
This really is amazing. Everything is very accurate about the cancer male. They are extremely charming to the point of danger.
sigh... someone figured me out
I do have those daydreams
even while im driving....
How amazing, someone figured me out
I do daydream alot
even while im driving >:]
Yes, this is definitely true! I dated a Cancer male and he was just like this. He couldn't manipulate me very well, though, because I'm a Cancer female. We are the same way except on the feminine side.
And, my Cancer male had plenty of "bubbling emotions" of which to speak (Do I detest some Cancer-girl hatred going on here, Scorpio?).
Anyway, Cancer guys are great (when they're not sulking)!
I'm left speechless.
You don't know me! You don't know me!
Ok...I guess you kinda know me...
As a scorpio female (and yes, I did read your post on our fairer sex and didn't entirely agree) reading your description here I find it hardly believable that the combination of cancer and scorpio is reputed to be a marriage combination. When I think of what you've posted about scorpio women and cancer men here it would appear that they have nothing in common. It appears you've made scorpio females into some sort of caricature instead of real personas.
That's kind of scary-- I've been interested in a few cancer men. I don't want them to stray once they feel comfortable in the relationship. They better not or else!
-Scorpio female
Its amazing how accurate this is. Although one problem for us Cancer Males is even finding love in the first place. Nice guys finish last as they say, and alot of times we don't want to wait forever. maybe its just that i'm at the ripe young age of 16 and am constantly searching for love. That may make me seem desperate but I think for all cancers, theres always an empty space in our hearts that we always look to fill.
I find it hard to beleive that a women would be so attracted to our personalities because in my generation, all the girls just want to party and get drunk and do all the drugs they can, when I would rather sit at home and prepare a nice homecooked meal for the two of us and dine under candelight listening to italian romance music, then watch scary movies together. Oh well...it was nice of you to post that thanks =] and sorry about the length of this, I just seem to type and zone out and when I come back its half a book long.
This is spot on! I am a Scorpio female who is falling for a Cancer male, and I love the part about him making me feel like it's all my idea. . . thank you for putting in words what I was feeling.
He is such an incredible guy!
wow this is soooooo true i am with a cancer now I never knew it would get this good but it did wow but you do need patience with them to get to that point well worth the wait.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
I'm a male Cancer and I can't believe how accurate that is.
I am a Cancer woman and would like to find the page on that. I just found this site and have been here all day!! LOVE it
I am also falling for a Cancer male. I am also a Scorpio and is trying to figure out how to retrieve out of his shell. We had a texting fight this weekend and is worried and not sure what to do. I am really liking this Cancer and want everything that is possible for us but I need to be patient which is very hard for a Scorpio. Someone please help.
I'm a Cancer male and it's very very true, I just wish I could find the right girl I tried a Scorpio, but it didn't out too well. @.@
Okay, somebody help me!!! I've been dating a cancer male for the last two months and having a great time!!! Yesterday I let him know that I was falling in love with him. He was receptive but said he was not feeling the same way as me "yet". Did I blow it?
the exact same thing just happened to me... help...
No you didn't blow it by telling him that your falling... Becareful because once he admitts he loves he shows it in EVERY WAY... GOOD LUCK
im a cancer male,haha yup i have to agree,its pretty dead on,no wonder i tend to attract and date older women ;) haha
oh yeah and the whole thing about "letting a cancer male slip away" is true
one of my exes cheated on me,and i broke up with her in a heart beat, and she still continues to try to get back with me, to bad she had her chance
oh yeah one more thing if your friends with a cancer, stay friend with them and dont become their enemy
Wow! I am a Scorpio woman whose been dating a Cancer male for only 3 weeks now. I honestly felt he was some sort of player because he seems to good to be true. Everything is perfect, he treats me like I am a queen and I have never felt like this before. I'm surfing the Internet to find out more about his sign and stumbled upon this page. You totally helped me out and now I realized this is the true him and I may be the luckiest woman in the world for finding him. I'm only 26 and not in a rush for marriage or anything but for the first time in my life I feel like I found the one... Wish me luck
I'm a cancer male and by reading that post you now know everything about me. I agree with dan 100%.
Wow.. I dated a Cancer male for a long time and I agree that he was the perfect boyfriend, lover. He was definitely the "marrying type" although now I've lost him, I realise what I had and I kind of miss him..
I am a Taurus woman who is spark in love with a cancer man and have been for 6 months , he treats me like a queen says he loves me to death but , no sex , he says it spoils things !!
although he is not averse to a little fun sometimes , he is not afraid to tell people our situation ,but it crucifies me , as I keep myself tidy so to speaak just in case !what do i do ?
(cancer male) i didnt know im this type. i recently fell for a scorpio girl
, i was attracted to her figure and her kinda dominant attitude (that
attitude.... upto certain degrees, beyond that it pisses me off). I feel she is my
queen and make sure she feels safe and beloved with me.I played little on her
to make her fall in with me. Took little time,but i had patience. Sex wasnt
on my mind when i was trying to woo her, just as you said. I wanted emotional
love from her. I mean everything you just said is so damn correct!!!
OMG!! I am a Taurus lady who has just landed herself a loving Cancer man....Mood swings! Hmmm Thats an understatment..but I did find they come with a reason, if he has not had enough attention, mothering, pampering, feeding he will sulk!! It doesn't last long before he is back to his normal self after a bit of attention and a sweet smile asking him to put up a shelf or fix something....Cancer men LOVE to feel usfull and needed!
Give em lots of tlc, mothering adn feeding and you will have him eating out the palm of your hand, with loyalty, security and love!!
As a 18 yr old cancer my friends all think am weird for keeping my virginity for the one. They would rather have spontanious sex with random chicks. Also don't forget our mood swings, I just came out of one.
wow, my husband's a cancerian, and I can assure he's a lot like you described here
I am a cancer male.. and this is very true i must say. well its hard to believe how can someone know so much just based on star sign.. and i have a capricon girlfreind and she says there cant be anyone else more romantic than me.. :-) I Love her a lot.. :-*
Flippin' hell that's creepy. Down to the T. I'm a male cancer. Daydreams and visions of happiness. I DO THAT. I love affection and the giving of, and I am wanting it all the time. Very true about the temper. I always envision myself the leading role, the hero. That's just creepy accurate, but I'm glad I read it. Thank you for your insight.
Im a pisces female and im dating a cancer male my Boyfriend is everything that you have mentioned the only thing is he keeps on accusing me of not loving him and i have to constantly reaasure him that i do...What do you think this means and what should i do
hey dan..stop puttin mirrors on the screen...haha..well m a cancer guy..n all that has been said here is really true...but for those poetic minds..here's sumthin i wrote abt us..hav a look..
I’ve been fine to be here…
Since the time when I was lost…
searching the dreams sleeping…
and to know their cost..
Its just so good to be here…
at the second place..
Then facing the opposite…
my hopeless mirror’s face..
can u see the life…
the blue water falling…
its cold in eyes if only..
I am alive…in case…
Tired of facing the difference…
In my reflection’s opinion…
I am burning the metal for…
A better sight to be chased…
I see the boats floating..
Leading to chaos…
I see the wind in colors…
Moving in circles….
The red beam penetrating…
Through my chest…
And the stars falling…
On a river’s edge..
When the time comes…
Its just me, watching..
This beautiful illusion..
I want to live in…
A better life…my unrequited life…
hope u liked it..one thing i wud like to say...open urself to us...show who u r..dont say it..we actually know it..n plz dont hurt..plzz...hav fun guys..
I'm a Cancer female married to a Cancer male for 24 years now. Just got done reading your description of the Cancer Male and have to say that it's more the way I am, than my husband! How can you explain that one? He's conservative, traditional, hard working, but as far as being romantic and sexual... not the case here unfortunately.
Hey guys i need help!! anyone have advice for me? - I am a taurus female and am attracted to a cancer male. This line from above describes my situation pretty well: "He's cool and detached prior to the pounce, pretending to be nonchalant but succeeding in planting the seeds of desire deep within her. She can imagine a future with this one." Right now, I am seriously falling for him, we have a class together. he doesn't talk to me much but sometimes I catch him looking at me and I am scared to make the first move, should I just go for it? or do you think he's just 'waiting for the poince'? lol
Just do it! Go for him. Don't wait for male cancerian to aproach you. The thing that he looks at you, is enough proof that he likes you. Don't wait anymore. You'll thank me some day.
I love this post, the most beautifully delicate and caring men I have ever met are Cancer and I am lucky to have just found a new one. This time I am counting myself very lucky as before reading this I had somehow forgotten the depths to which these men can dream and take you with them as they truly are Princes. What gets me most about these men is that tough shell they carry on their backs - God it is such a natural attraction to just wanna get inside there and lye in there soft interior forever cos their love is so deep their feelings so connected and their intuition so finely tuned that you find yourslelf 'living the dream!!!' wish me luck xx
I'm a cancer male. I've looked at other sites and this one is, by far, the most accurate. I felt like I was reading something I wrote about myself... >.>
I am a male Cancer from ITALY, and all the information that I read here is 100% ACCURATE.
I am amazed!!
If you are a lady looking for information about Cancer males, IMO this is the best description I ever read about MYSELF.
I agree with Pema 100%
hey its great i m too falling for a cancer male.he treats me as if i m the only special,beautiful girl in this world.but the prob is he is my cousin.idont know whether its love or hes just being nice.guys pl help.i m a leo girl and i love being adored and admired and though many guys have been around me but i think i have fallen in love vid him.
Cancer male here, this is wonderfully accurate to the extents that I m surprised. To me, there are some great "secret points" mentioned that I could not have imagined someone else could know also to such level of accuracy! Particularly that point..."making a woman feel as if moving into the next inevitable steps in the relationship is HER idea - but don't let him fool you. He's coaxing you there, knowing all the while, it's HIS idea - he's just giving you the time you need trusting that you will ultimately make the decision he wishes to see you make." Irrespective of whether you love or hate it, it is incredibly accurate!
I am a Leo female with my mars venus and jupiter in cancer and I am very attracted to a cancer male who has the overwhelming effect on me. I am extrovert and find that I cannot speak when I am around this person,I thought a double leo with and aries moon and taurus on her midheaven would not be so overwhelmed by such a beuatiful cancer male. Now What?
I m a cancer male, my advice to any female out there is that fall in love with a cancer ONLY if you are ready for INTENSITY in love. But if you are looking for a superficial relationship, then yes, as many have complained, he can be boring! Also, when a cancer falls in love, he will stay in it. As a cancer male, let me tell you something from my own experience(just one!) from which I have learned much. WHY people say(who have broken with one) that cancers can be maddening and hard to understand? Oh let me tell you NEVER, we cancers can be a true DREAM for any girl in the world as long as we trust her, as open as nobody else could be and as ROMANTIC as a very very few could be! Our maddening approach starts only when we feel we are being cheated or that we will be REJECTED. But why so, let me tell you CANCERS are not weak(at least I m not, I'v given tough competitions to Aries, Scorpio men in my life with a do or die spirit), they fear REJECTION simply because they are true lovers and it is hard for a true lover to bear the pain of rejection! (By the way I m 20 yrs old, fell hard for someone one year ago.)
Fall in love with a cancer if you are ready for intensity. If you are looking for a superficial relationship, forget about it! When cancers love, they love hard. Yes cancers can be a dream but from my own soul transforming experience with someone 1 yr ago, i can say a cancer is a dream as long as he trusts you, but as soon as he begins to suspect that you are cheating on him, he can be enormously frustrating and will nearly drive you mad. So, be open in your emotions, particularly verbally. A cancer man can be enormously suspicious of your every single move if you ever happen to lose his trust particularly when verbal communication is not proper. Drastic misunderstandings tend to destabilize the otherwise, heavenly relationship.
Hi I m a cancer. I m in love with a leo girl. I m so proud to have won her heart when others were just dreaming of her!
Im a cancer and dated a leo girl for 2 years. Look out male cancers dating a leo girl. At first the leo girl will love you but overtime they become comfortable and begin to get annoyed at our emotional states. They start to pick at our thiftyness and social awareness which will sting you because all you do is love her and cant understand why she is doing this to you. She left me and man that was the hardest time in my life. We are talking it took over a year for me to get over and I still think of her even though I'm seeing someone else now and she is a scorpio all I can saw is wow what a difference.
Im a Cancerian mail, Its all to true, to my fellow male Cancerians........STAY clear of Aries women thay are emotional minefields and can not cope with us, .......nightmare !!! lol
i'm a cancer guy and guess what i'm still virgin! couldn't make it just because i didn't find someone i could rely on. i choose to remain virgin rather than participating in a raw sex without love. this article seems quite true. And ya i have recently fallen for a scorpio female. I love her demanding ways and how i seem to understand her. her spontaneous actions and raw expressions. but they don't seem to like a cancer guy anyway if i'm not wrong. What does astrology say?????
scorpio girls are good with cancer men, especially if you let her take the lead sexually. scorpio girls are great with virgins and I know this from (a good!) experience - very understanding and totally unfazed by any requests. they can be a bit demanding though so you may find she is quite dominant or takes the lead - not such a bad thing if you are inexperienced. She will probably like the challenge if you confide in her about your lack of experience - it will be something that you can give her that you can give nobody else and she will like that. She is also probably ok with taking it slowly. If you get it right emotionally you can totally rely on a scorpio - you just have to take the leap and trust them. I think scorpio women are easier to trust than scorpio men but there is the element of having to sort of surrender a bit to them which can be harder for a man - I think it might be easier the other way around i.e. Scorpio man & cancer women. However they are supposed to be quite jealous and demanding of your fidelity so bear that in mind, although you sound very determined and so you can probably stay true. (I didn't and so i lost her, which i now regret sometimes) Astrology says that this is one of the better combinations as both water signs, so you should get on well. good luck!
scorpio girls are good with cancer men, especially if you let her take the lead sexually. scorpio girls are great with virgins and I know this from (a good!) experience - very understanding and totally unfazed by any requests. they can be a bit demanding though so you may find she is quite dominant or takes the lead - not such a bad thing if you are inexperienced. She will probably like the challenge if you confide in her about your lack of experience - it will be something that you can give her that you can give nobody else and she will like that. She is also probably ok with taking it slowly. If you get it right emotionally you can totally rely on a scorpio - you just have to take the leap and trust them. I think scorpio women are easier to trust than scorpio men but there is the element of having to sort of surrender a bit to them which can be harder for a man - I think it might be easier the other way around i.e. Scorpio man & cancer women. However they are supposed to be quite jealous and demanding of your fidelity so bear that in mind, although you sound very determined and so you can probably stay true. (I didn't and so i lost her, which i now regret sometimes) Astrology says that this is one of the better combinations as both water signs, so you should get on well. good luck!
I'm a Cancer male and I just wanted to thank you for writing this post. I get heartbroken a lot so I really needed a confidence boost.
I'm bookmarking this to bring me up everytime I'm down
i m a cancer male with leo rising and my sub ruler is pluto bkz i m 12th july born.what ever you said its very true.i give importance to sex more than my life.i want your posts on leo,sag,aquarious woman posts on their sex drive and which sun sign girl can fully satisify me sexually?please give sexual compatibility with me.i love your site mirror of aphrodite.keep it up,i m waiting for you new posts about sex.
I'm so in love with my Cancer man. He's my everything. Btw I'm a Leo girl 08/12/87.
I almost fell in love with a Cancer man except he didn't want a relationship. I tried telling him how I feel and no word from him. I felt like I was ready to be with him forever but he constantly pushes me away.
sorry to rain on the cancer male parade but with every upside there is a downside, i agree with all that is said here he definitely makes you fall for him alright, but when it comes to recripocating feelings talking about them know where you are at with these men forget it, i have been in love with a cancerian for 4 years and he has done nothing but do my head in.
i'm dating a cancer male now. libra female here. this is supposed to be the worst relationship but somehow i'm attracted to him like no other. he hasn't seen me cry, but i have seen him, and everything here seems to be true. he said so himself after reading.
hoping for you to post something about librans soon~
I'm a cancer male myself. Fell hopelessly in love with a sagitarrius girl for 3 girls and worked it out throughout the relationship. All that's said about being a prince is true. And so is the anger that stems from rejection because a cancer cannot simply accept his love being turned down. And very determined to win his love back too. However love itself too heals the heart of cancer but this takes a lot and lot of time.
He finds solace in arms of other women, but in his heart still yearns for the one who melted his hard tough shell. He's very very good at decieving his intentions. Often finds himself liking 3 or 4 girls at the same time, and loves the challenge of seducing them, charming his way into their hearts. He wants to make them fall in love with him. He can make you feel you're the one hurting him, thus bringing his lady closer to him. one step back, two steps closer. But ladies out there, if you must, be independent. Independence is clearly sexy in eyes of a cancer. There is the challenge in there, of trying to win your heart over , including your own personal self, your independence.
Dark side of cancerians, he sees beauty in all women. Women ain't scared of him, rather drawn to him by his coolness and charm, and the comfort he oozes out of his words. "Like" turns into "love" usually. His strengths lies in his words, his subtle actions that touches the very softest spots of a woman, and oh yeah, his acting. haha, his acting, his presentation. Often, you will know him better, see his real side, through his friends. How many ladies he has, his friends might know, but none of the ladies he's trying to seduce will know. But he doesn't speak bad or evil about no ladies. He knows he can love the ladieS in his life. He has his own definiion of being faithful. To give so much love, so much that a memory is born out of the feeling that's been shared, the dreams that's been created. Another dark side? GAmbler, huge risk taker. If he has control of your heart strings, beware! Money? loves to spend. loves to spend on his ladies too.
But all said and done, each woman he spends a part of his life, he learns a lesson. Because the goodness(love) in a lady makes him guilty, makes him feel he needs to start another journey, to find another queen. Ironic isn't it?
Just a word of advice to keep cancer man. What you see on the surface, is not, most of the time, who he is. You will understand a cancer man fully only after you break his very shell. Let yourself fall in love with him. This isn't the hard step, he'll make give his heart and you can't say no to him. But but BUT, if he shows even a lil bit of clinginess, or his raw anger in him.. break up with him. You, my dear lady, have to show you are willing to give up relationship. This completely throws a cancer man. And then the real magic begins. The real man comes out of his shell, and will try to win u over.. with genuine intentions. That's all.
I'm with a leo girl, another sagitarrius girl, taurus, and a scorpio ( only girl i chosen to be with). All of them love me, except scorpio. Haha.. sweet life.
Wow this is so accurate regarding the cancer man in my life! I'm a virgo female and he is just a roller coaster of emotions. My cancer male has expressed interest, but I don't know how genuine it is... Do Virgo and Cancer even go together? Need a bit of advice...I don't want to lose him and at the same time I don't want to push him away by mothering him any advice for this confused Virgo Female
I think I'm falling for a cancer male, I'M A VIRGO female and I feel that he is being a player!? I just don't understand the cancer male? Need some advice and I was wondering how compatible Virgo female and cancer male are?
(Cancer Male)
HOLLY CRAP, i swear, it's like the one posted this has been studyin cancer males for the life time, i mean, i never thought that someone could know that far about us lol, yet thats not all lol, im very IMPRESSED, my girl has told me some of those, and then she said "there r alot of stuff i wont let u know " lol
alot of girls fell for me , and im aware of this, and still fallin, and i think will ever fall...
it's just that, i dont think to do what i do, i just DO lol, it's like , Nature thing, i just know how im supposed to treat the female ,in a way thats she likes it -maybe not in the begining - coz she might be shy, or way too conceited to show it, but after a while -not in a long time- she falls hard and fast... it's just the magic!! lol
thnx for this post!!
For scorpio women, since there seem to be a lot on this topic.. I need some advice. OK so I'm a cancer male, just turned 28. About 2 years ago I met a scorpio female, we talked endlessly for 2 months and felt like she was the one, then some drama hit (not regarding me though) and she shut me out, broke contact completely. We spoke a couple times thoughout the past couple years, nothing significant.
NOTE* this is long distance
Well she messaged me a week ago, we're both single, started talking and within 3 days all the feelings we had came rushing back (to both of us). She told me that over those years she never forgot about me and missed talking to me. So things are going great, she dropped the L-Bomb, we text each other all day. Then boom, a bad memory popped in (not regarding me) and she has shut me out again. She warned me that she needed time to herself and that she'd hit me up in a while, and that she loves me. Because she broke contact before, I find myself gearing up for the worst.
1st how long is a while?
2nd I thought I was the crab!
3rd Am I overreacting by gearing up for the end, or is it my cancer being cancer to avoid being hurt?
oh wow a'm a male cance, this article blew my mind... at first i just search for male cancer or so, and didn't belive about zodiac or something... but this thing is so true.
i've been through an aries female, and that was the worst scenario of my life. like the comments i saw, aries is an emotion minefield... beware Cancer Male brothers! XD
Oh man, about the scorpio woman, i think you should really trust her, dude. I am a scorpio woman and when she told you that she loves you then you should believe it. We don't say something serious like that unless we don't mean it. Right now, i believe that she is just going through something and you should wait. It realy is worth it to wait, beside, she did tell you how she felt and we're too intense and we're VERY serious when it comes to love. She's not joking.
Anyways, I really like this post. It gave me some confidence on pursuing my cancer man so wish me luck and if it doesn't work out the way I want it too, well there's other cancers out there. :D Thanks for the idea.
I am a male Cancer. This fails utterly.
Hi everyone, the real problem, and its very fixable, between the cancer male and the scorpio female is the misunderstanding they give each other when the male cancer begins to get very moody negatively as the scorpio woman pulls away because of her mysterious emotional pullback not letting him know how she feels, and him also...so they both need to just get in a hot tub and talk it over and thats it they both will succumb to their emotional love for one another...AND FOLKS THIS IS WITHOUT A DOUBT THE BEST PAIRING IN THE ZODIAC, DESTINED TO FALL IN LOVE, TRULY...WATCH OUT FOR THEM THEY'LL SMOKE
Im a male cancer and idk why but all my friends say that im sweet and idk how but all of it just comes to me. i think this is accurate
Im a cancer man,broke up a year ago with a scorpio women.Been with her for 2 years.We were about to get engaged.
The thing is,she just can't see how much I love her.I could gave up everything for her.I do anything for her.
I dont know what went wrong,I know I'l never find a girl like her but Im bored of getting scold.Bored of fighting.I just wish I could turn back time when Im the most happiest with her.
But now things change,I have to move on.
Hopefully I find someone new.
(Very difficult though)
I was falling in love with a cancer, it made me scared, because he didn't want me - and I did not want to be hurt, but I had this feeling he was the right one for me. everyone said to get rid of him but there was something holding me back. finally I tried to be logical but my heart was saying no - and in the process I got mean and angry, because I had these feelings that I did not know how to deal with - they came out as mean words just to try and express something.
btw - I posted the post earlier, I'm a capricorn sun/pisces moon - my venus sign in scorpio which means when I love, I LOVE
I've dated two Cancer males and found them to be exactly this... except in my experience...that charm that they're so luckily endowed with that I tend to give into works only to hurt me in the end...I can never understand why that is...since throughout the relationship I always turn out to be their "queen" or so they say...but I guess they're just not ready yet...I dont know. Both times my relationships lasted two years but both times the Cancer male needed his space... although they were still supposedly "crazy about me" and found me fitting to be the one they wanna be with in their ripe old age...Anyway...I'm just confused since if they really wanted me to be "the one" why let go of something good while its still good? Am I missing something here? I'm a Capricorn woman...
I am a scorpio female and find this to be so true of cancer men. It seems of late that these are the men I have feel closets too besides another scorpio male. We can almost detect each other from across the room. Its hard to explain the feeling.
The problem though about a cancerian male is that he seems to be confused about his emotions and do not have much control over them. Which could be a good and bad thing. But as a scorpio female its really not the hard to deal with their emotions. I have learned that most of the time its not me, he just need space for a moment. Then he'll be back to give me plenty of hugs and kisses. I understand that because as a scorpio I get in my moods at times and just need some time alone to think.
The problem however for a scorpio is patience when it comes to dealing with the emotions of a cancerian. Because sometimes you really just dont feel like dealing with the mess.
But other then that, cancerian men are sweethearts and not to be taken lightly.
i'm a leo girl and this seems to be true for the cancer man that is slowly working his way into my life.
my first boyfriend was a cancer and we were together for 3 years. the problem, i think, was that we were both very young immature. we were teenagers! he was emotionally manipulative (still is at age 29 from what i hear), a horrible liar, and a serial cheater. i think cancers can be this way if they're immature. i read somewhere years ago that there is a difference in personality when a sign reaches maturity. for example, i notice a lot of the typical leo descriptions are that of an immature one. a mature leo can be one magnificent creature if certain aspects are kept in check. i think the same goes with any other sign.
as for the new cancer in my life... he's wonderful! he exudes some typical cancer traits, that even my 1st boyfriend had, but he's in his early 30's. my first boyfriend was a total clown, obnoxiously tried to be the center of attention at all times, dim, and just plaing annoying. the one that is after me serenades me (literally! he's a musician and once played his acoustic guitar and sang to me under the stars while looking up at me; i was perched atop a giant object), he's creative, witty, intelligent, sharp, and freaking sly man. i've known him for a good 3 months now and, though i could always tell he at least found me attractive, he's slowly seeped into my thoughts and life. he's gotten under my skin and i'm a little dumbfounded by it! he doesn't come off as a ladies' man at all. he's not much of a flirt... except with me. he acts like he only has eyes for me. i also hear about this boob fetish they have? i don't get it. he seems to be quite enamored with my face. no joke! he looks me directly in the eye/face region and always looks like a kid in a candy store!
I'm a 22 Y/O cancer male i've only had 2 relationships since i was 14.
The first was with a leo which lasted 2 years she broke my nose after she found out i cheated on her.
The second and current is a taurus she is, well i dont really know how to describe her. She makes me happy when everything else makes me sad, i dont know how she does she just does. She understands me, can turn me on with just a look and when i want to curl up into a ball and just lay in bed she is right there beside me.
She also has great boobs, curves and makes immense roast potatoes.
I AM A SCORPIO FEMALE THAT BECAME INVOLVED WITH A CANCER MALE ABOUT TWO MONTHS AGO. I AM AN EVOLVED SCORPIO THAT HAS PATIENCE,I AM CARING , VERY GENEROUS, COMPASSIONATE, AND HAS VERY INSIGHTFUL WAYS. THIS MAN CAME ON TO ME VERY STRONG AT FIRST BUT HE WAS VERY VERY SECRETIVE. HE VERY RARELY CALLED AND WHEN HE DID CALL IF I WAS NOT HOME HE WOULD LIVE A MESSAGE IN ANOTHER STRANGE VOICE. THIS CANCER MAN WAS VERY CREEPY AND STRANGE. HE HAD CALLED ONCE AFTER I HAD NOT HEARD FROM HIM IN ABOUT TWO WEEKS, SAYING THAT HE DID NOT HAVE ANY MONEY AND WAS HUNGRY. I DID NOT HEAR FROM HIM AGAIN FOR ABOUT ANOTHER WEEK HE HAD NOT PAID HIS PHONE BILL AND HIS PHONE WAS TURNED OFF. I HAD OFFERED TO HAVE HIS PHONE SERVICE RESTORED BECAUSE I KNEW HOW MUCH HIS PHONE HAD MEANT TO HIM. HE CALLED THE NEXT EVENING ABOUT 3 TIMES I WAS NOT HOME HE WANTED TO KNOW WHERE I WAS. HE TOLD ME HE WAS COMING TO TOWN THE NEXT DAY AND WOULD CALL ME THE NEXT MORNING. THE NEXT MORNING CAME AND HE NEVER CALLED SO I WENT ON ABOUT MY BUSINESS. WHILE I WAS GONE HE HAD CALLED AT LEAST 7-8 TIME TALKING ABOUT MAKING LOVE AND HOW BADLY HE WANTED TO SEE ME. HE HAD SAID MORE IN THESE PHONE CALLS THAN HE HAD SAID IN ALL THE TIME WE HAD BEEN TOGETHER. WHEN I FINALLY SPOKE TO HIM HE WAS CLEARLY UPSET BECAUSE I WAS NOT AROUND WHEN HE HAD CALLED. HE TOLD THE PEOPLE AT THE HOUSE HE WAS AT TO TELL ME THAT HE HAD LEFT OUT OF THE BACK DOOR. BEING A SCORPIO I AM COOL WITH HIM, I DON'T CARE IF HE EAT SHIT AND DIES. MAYBE MY CURIOUSITY WANTED TO SEE WHAT TYPE OF GAMES HE WAS RUNING AND WHAT HE WAS UP TO. I GAVE HIM ENOUGH ROPE TO HANG HIMSELF. HIS PLANS WAS SPOILED, WHAT HE WANTED TO DO WAS TO MANIPULATE ME OUT OF MY MONEY WHEN HE FIRST ARRIVED IN TOWN. HE HAD PLANNED OUT HIS GAME TO A TEE. HE WOULD OF STAYED AT MY HOME FOR ABOUT 3-4 HOURS. AFTERWARDS HE WOULD OF TOOK OFF WITH MY LOOT. HE WOULD OF USED MY MONEY TO BUY DRINKS,DRUGS AND PARTY WITH OTHER WOMEN. AND WHEN I TALK TO HIM AGAIN HE WOULD OF SAID THAT HE PASSED OUT AND DID NOT WAKE UP TO THE NEXT MORNING. EARLY I HAD FIND OUT THAT HE WAS STAYING IN A DRUG REHAB, HALFWAY HOUSE AND I SUSPECT HE WAS RECENTLY RELEASED FROM PRISON. I AM ONE THAT DO NOT BELIEVE A WOMEN SHOULD LOSE HER INDEPENDENTS OR CHANGE HERSELF TO GET AND APPEASE A MAN, THESE RELATIONSHIPS NEVER WORK BECAUSE THE WOMAN IS NOT BEING HERSELF AND IS CATERING TO A MAN TO HOLD ONTO HIM. ACTUALLY I DO NOT LIKE TO WASTE A LOT OF TIME PURSUING A RELATIONSHIP YOU ARE EITHER ON BOARD OR YOU ARE NOT. I DO NOT HAVE TIME FOR THE HEAD GAMES. THIS CANCER MAN BELIEVED THAT HE COULD OUT WIT ME A SCORPIO FEMALE AND GOT BURNED ON HIS BEHIND, HE WAS SOMEWHERE TRYING TO FIGURE OUT HOW I KNEW WHAT HE WAS PLOTTING. I HAD ALREADY CALCULATED WHAT HE WOULD DO WHEN HE CAME TO LOS ANGELES. I WAS NOT GOING TO BE HOME, IN ORDER TO SEE IF ALL THIS CANCER WAS ABOUT WAS TRYING TO GET MY MONEY. IF HE HAD CAME BY AFTER HE HAD RECIEVED MY PHONE CALL HE WOULD OF BEEN ALRIGHT. THE DAY BEFORE HE HAD SAID THAT HE WAS COMING TO TOWN TO SPEND SOME TIME WITH ME AND THAN GO TO HIS NEPHEW BITHDAY PARTY. I DECIDED TO LET HIM GO AHEAD TO THE PARTY, AND WHEN THE PARTY WAS OVER HE COULD COME BY AFTERWARDS. SCORPIO SOMETIMES BRINGS A LOTS OF SITUATIONS UPON THEMSELVES, THEY WILL WATCH ALOT OF OTHER SIGNS LITERLY MAKE FOOLS OF THEMSELVES, AND WONDER DO THEY THINK THAT THEY ARE REALLY GETTING AWAY WTH WHAT THEY ARE DOING IN THEIR MINDS THEY ARE SAYING ( BLESS THEIR POOR HEARTS ). WHEN THESE SIGNS REALIZE THAT THE SCORPIO HAS CHECKED THEM THEY BECOME FIGHTEN OF THEM. THE SCORPIO IS NOT ABOUT TO STING YOU, YOU HAVE ALREADY BEEN STUNG. BY THE WAY THIS CANCERIAN MAN WILL BE BACK, HE WILL CALL WITH SOME AMAZING STORY AS TO WHY HE DID NOT CALL OR COME OVER. HE WILL ALSO TRY TO ACERTAIN IF I HAD PLANNED EVERYTHING TO TURN OUT THE WAY IT DID OR DID IT JUST HAPPEN. AS A SCORPIO I WILL SPEAK IN A SWEET VOICE WITH TOTAL CONCERN AS I IF HAD ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA WHAT HAPPENED. BECAUSE HE HAS NO MORALS HE WILL STILL TRY AND GET MY DOCKETS.
I love my cancer. From some, I have heard he intensd on proposing.
wow most of this is down to a T. I would consider myself the guy the woman dreams for. The hardest part is being with a saggitarius lol but ima dealin with it
im glad to have found this site. scorpio female very interested in cancer male. why cant cancer be more vocal emotionally. scorpios are born investigators, i hate not knowing what this cancer is up to. all we do is text. he never calls unless my cell ph is off then he leaves a very sweet message, he will not tell me over the phone or when i see him in person which is sooooo rare, (long distant relationship)
ADVICE PLEASE:
can any cancer males out there let me know why is it that you cannot express your true feelings, i have expressed my scorpio feelings very clearly & have to be the conversation starter always, is this cancer male that i have m eye on that shy? i doubt. its a long distant relationship and he is aware how i feel and my needs. all we do is text,never calls & yes we have met but that has been about 1 yr ago and we text daily. should this scorpio female just be patient or move on? scorpio women are very investigative you better believe it. we question everthing and have to know why & what makes somone tick, very guarding of our emotions.
I'm not a fan of star signs, i dont really think they are particularly accurate. According to my friend im cancer in cancer with something else cancer related. I dont really understand it if im honest.
Im not looking for a princess im looking for a lay. Im not close to my mother because shes dead and my dad lives four thousand miles away.
Fine most of my friends are women and i find it easier to talk to women than men but i cant sleep with men, well i could but im not into that.
Although i think all of my previous 5 "partners" have been Taurus, and my best friend is a leo who unfortunately i have not managed to sleep with, yet.
I am a picses woman (55 years old). I've known this cancer guy (64) for about 2 years. I wasn't interested in him at all, but we went for walks, talked a lot, he helped me with advice on some of my problems etc. (we live in the same building). About 1 month ago he made few comments about my sexy shorts, then another week or so later tryed to kiss me. It suprised me as I never thought he would be interested in me. To cut the story short - he pounced about 3 weeks ago and I gladly let him to seduce me. It was unbelievable. Totally unexpected and totally magic. I wonder whether he had been preparing it all the way... He really seems to be everything this star sign should be like...and I am smitten. Even in this age!
SCORPIO WOMAN: pices woman great that you are smitten with your cancer guy! im older also & im smitten by a cancer man too. they do seem to be moody. im just wondering do i need to make the first move on this cancer man. will he think this is too aggressive behavior. any ideas???? im really really likeing this man. do they like a woman to say how sweet they are and i miss you or how sexy they are etc or is this to much
my cancer male stopped calling as soon as I told him I had stopped taking birth control. I showed him I cared and he barely ever showed me anything except his d$%k. I am the fool, I should have never given him a second chance. There were a few times when I know he lied - he had a full package of condoms, we had a argument, went a few weeks without speaking, and the next time I saw him he pulled out a condom and it was "the last one" - there were suspicious dark brown stains on his sheets that looked like a woman had her period in his bed (he said it was his fake tan, stupid to believe that one, huh). Twice he received text messages and phone calls late at night, and never showed me who called to prove it wasn't other women, he said it was emails on his iphone but I know he lied because the emails only have one sound, and the sound that came though was for a text message. Once when he was incredibly drunk I asked him if he had ever slept with women in his office and he said once a week - and did not say it in a joking way. He gets upset with me when I am feeling frustrated - yet won't give me the respect of even referring to me as someone he's dating. He expects me to be trustworthy, yet does nothing to make me feel secure or safe or wanted. How can you trust someone who gives you nothing in return? No one has asked me out on a date since my last boyfriend with whom I broke up with in 2006. Apparently no one wants me and I was falling in love with this cancer Austrailian and it has proven to be a lost cause and a waste of time with stupid hopes. I do know though, that at one time there was something beautiful and amazing there, being in his arms was all I needed - don't need to go out, just be in his arms together. someone I finally felt like I could be silly around, have a life with, be together.Tried to be patient, understanding, but gave way too much and ended up getting burned. He also likes african american women, I am petite and have small boobs, will always feel like I would lose him to an african american woman since I'm not his "type".
Anonymous,
Red flag number one: he wears fake tan? Sounds like a fruity player to me. . .
First off, a woman should NEVER say things like, "no one wants me" and "I feel like I would lose him to another woman no matter what." Honey, let me tell you something. Women hold the keys. The sooner you realize that, the better off you'll be. You are a queen, you are beautiful and there are plenty of men out there that would have you. You're selling yourself short and with men, if you do that and they get your "number" so-to-speak. . . . they will turn you into their doormat. I'm not trying to be sour towards men, I love em, but thats just how it is.
You see, by nature men are hunters. They like fiesty competition, they like to be challenged. If a guy goes hunting and someone tosses a bird into the air and he shoots it. It will be a disappointing hunting trip. Now on the other hand, if he goes hunting and tracks an animal for miles. . . finds it, shoots it . . . it runs, he tracks it down again - and delivers the final death blow . . . that'll go down in his history as a fantastic hunting trip where he was a conquering God.
If you lay yourself out like Thanksgiving dinner on a silver platter - you're going to get taken advantage of by a man. He will view you as weak and unexciting, non-challenging.
You need to get back on birth control and stop talking babies. You need to be unavailable. Stop being at his beck and call. Believe it or not, he'll respect you more for it. If a guy thinks you're "conquered" easily . . he will conquer you - and then put you on the back burner while he chases after something challenging and exciting that gives him a fight. Ever notice how the guys you are least interested in - chase you the most??? This isn't playing games. It's giving the man what he wants - a challenge that'll make him feel manly and worthy of you. And you'll get what you need too. . . you'll feel like a worthy queen. That's how it works and that's what creates a situation of "equality" and mutual respect in a relationship.
Imagine this, if you met a guy in a bar and he started talking about marriage, babies and sat there adoringly gazing into your eyes all night. You may enjoy it momentarily, but you'd walk away thinking, "He's a chump. That was easy." You may like him, but he's a bit too willing, which doesn't arouse anything in anyone. Men and women like to be aroused my friend.
That being said. . . I'd keep those things in mind for the next guy you date to ensure it's a successful dating situation. This guys clearly an ass. He's not respecting you and he's lieing to you. If your gut is tingling - get the hell outta there. Plain and simple.
Women get hurt all the time because they follow their hearts and let their "emotions" lead them. BIG MISTAKE. You need to start thinking logically and stop being emotional and romantic about this. Start using your head and save your heart the pain.
Call him, tell him to go ____ himself, then go get an entirely new haircolor and an entirely new hairdo. Buy yourself one outfit that is completely unlike anything you'd normally wear. Buy a new purse and get your nails done.
Then, in your newly found confidence, hold your head high and think positive. The Law of Attraction will kick into action and you will begin to draw positive people and positive situations into your life. Then, stay away from riff-raff and giggalo players that usually aren't even worth their salt in bed as lovers. A player thinks of his satisfaction, not yours. As a result, they're all usually really bad lovers.
And if any guy approaches you wearing a fake bake tan, man jewelry and has the tips of his hair frosted - laugh hysterically at him . . . and then get the hell away from him.
Hold your head high honey. I know many, many men who absolutely adore petite women. "Check yourself" and then draw one to you.
Hey ppl...
I'm a Gemini Female..and have recently met a Cancer guy..known him for a month now..we had a serious unreal connection when we first met..we're really into each other but hes been really distant, doesn't call or text and says hell call and never does...but still told me hes really interested and all that..he really is Prince charming..(kind of too good to be true) but maybe a little advice would lift me up..i hate that he can't express his feelings..
Cancer males...got any advice for me..? it would be much appreciated..
Peace.
So is this how the Cancer males start o
Dear Taurus,
Many thanks for your thoughtful words in response to my post earlier, although just to clarify a few things, I'm off birth control only because I don't like taking hormones (I've tried about 7 different pills and they've all made me miserable). I'm not ready to have babies at this point in my life (although someday I might be, with the right person) and I've never discussed having babies or a family with anyone I've ever been involved with. I really like my hair, I've invested in several nice handbags (although adding a few more never hurts) and I do have a small but exceptional wardrobe. Although I appreciate your candor, and to each their own, I don't know that I agree with your point of view when it comes to men. Playing the distant b%$ch only goes so far when there's sincere interest and attraction, everyone wants to be wanted - even men. A man who likes a challenge, in my experience, often is just attracted to the thrill of the chase, after you've been conquered the thrill is over. The happiest partnerships that I see are two people who really and truly want to and enjoy being together. And the women who I know who are truly happy in their relationships are open, warm and loving people, who found Mr. Right because of how beautiful they are both inside and outside. Yeah, I know it sounds cheesy but it makes sense if you believe in the law of attraction. If you set out to play a "game" with someone, well - I always think that you get what you give. I'm not saying that there isn't a "dance" of sorts when two people begin a relationship, but I think men are afraid sometimes, to show their feelings, and men let me tell you - there is nothing more manly or sexy than a successful man who knows what they want and isn't afraid to show it. I'm not talking conjoined twins, no one wants someone who can't maintain their sense of identity, but no one really want someone with whom their constantly playing a power game.
My only rule when it comes to love and relationships is that there are no rules, every person and every situation is different. And sometimes taking the risk and following your heart can be disastrous, but can also be amazing. Love isn't logical, it just is, that's why it's amazing. My guy doesn't have frosted hair, and he may have a fake tan, and he is far from perfect, and sometimes he is a total d%$k but other times I am so in love with him I don't know what to do, and maybe I am a fool who still has a lot more lessons to learn, but what I feel is not logical, it just is. I could use a little work on respecting myself more though - so thank you Taurus- had a weepy night last night and just needed to vent somewhere.
Anonymous,
I hear where you're coming from and I'm glad to hear your maintaining your sense of confidence (and a top notch wardrobe, too!). I, too, agree. . . to each his own. But maybe you misunderstood.
The advice I gave isn't about playing games at all. It's about SEDUCTION. It's about renewing his interest in you, increasing his lust for you. It's about "attraction principles" in humans. There are certain principles within a relationship that draw and maintain interest from a significant other. No one said anything about being a bitch. I would never advise that. It's about standing your ground and holding your own as a woman. It sounds to me as if you've given 100% to him - and he's given 20% to you. He hasn't EARNED 100%. He isn't treating you as an equal nor does he respect you at all. So why have you given so much of yourself to him?
A woman can hold her own in a relationship WITHOUT being a bitch and you need to understand the male mind because it doesn't work like the female mind. Mae West once said, "When women go BAD- men go RIGHT after them." And every good seductress on the planet realizes that.
A woman needs to show strength and subtle seduction. Call that bitchy if you will. But if he doesn't call when he says, he doesn't deserve for you to race to the phone and pick up on the second ring. You call when your ready. If he breaks a date, you don't jump on the next invitation when he asks. If he rings your phone at 11pm at night, you don't get out of bed, jump in the car and race to his apartment. You tell him you'll be happy to see him at another more convenient date and time is all. If he isn't 100% committed to you, then you shouldn't be 100% committed to him. That's not bitchy, that's fair.
You don't give anyone anything that they don't earn and equality isn't about being a bitch. It's about commanding respect is all.
I'm hearing you and it sounds as if this was a 3 year committed relationship. Is that the case? Because if so, he isn't behaving as such so why are you treating it that way? He's getting way more from you than he's earning. And you're making yourself so available to him through your emotions, he knows he has you. Where's the excitement and seduction in that? Keep that up and you'll end up as his "fallback" when nothing else is around. He doesn't have to put effort into you - he's got you and he knows it.
People use the term bitch all too often and associate it with mean behavior. What it really describes is a strong woman who won't be pushed around and stands on her own two feet. Not a mean woman, a strong woman.
That being said, there's a great book out there that takes a humorous look at the phrase "bitch" and has some wonderful advice about "attraction principles" that men prefer and that woman need to know. Lot's of men were interviewed for the book and they gave so much information about what they truly desire that many wished to remain anonymous (as if they were breaking some "guy code.) And I can tell you right now, men don't want someone they can pushover. They don't respect that, they don't admire that and they don't desire that. They love a strong woman.
The book is called, "Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship" by Susan Argov. And I can tell you right now, nothing in the book has anything to do with being mean or bitchy at all. And I bet if you read it, it'll make perfect sense and will instantly put a stop to those weepy nights of yours.
I hope you go get a copy this weekend. I think it will truly help you to understand. If you do, let me know what you think :-)
Here's an insight into the male mind from the book:
Complaining/Whining/Nagging/Crying: A woman who is predictable and weak + A feeling of obligation = Decreased lust
Indifference = A strong woman and an unpredictable response = No obligations = Desire and lust
Guys,
You care to chime in here and give this lovely lady a bit of advice on what attracts you to a woman?
Are you attracted to strong women who commands respect, keeps her emotions in check and gives a bit of a tussle before being taken down?
Or do you prefer a woman who is available 24/7 at your beck and call, openly displays emotions and gives in when you snap your fingers?
And be honest . . . no smart asses please :-)
As an aside, I'll share a story from the book:
"A woman named Sarah was on a first date with a guy named Jim. After they sat down for dinner and ordered drinks, Jim immediately turned to Sarah and said, "I'm not ready for a relationship or anything serious. How about you, do you want to get married?"
Sarah finished taking a sip from her drink, calmly placed her glass down on the table, looked at Jim, smiled and said, "Gee, my dress is at the cleaners and I have to get up early for work tomorrow. I'm going to have to say no."
One year later, Jim told that story to their wedding guests . . . .
if you find a good man then you won't need to play games
if a guy is treating you poorly then tell him and if he continues to do it then make your decision as whether or not to leave him. the same goes for men about women.
why would i want a woman who regards me with indifference? if a woman ignores me then i take the hint and move on
why do people go to date experts for advice on a healthy relationship? most date experts seem to be single, so what the hell do they know about a healthy relationship? there's a reason it's called Sex and the city and not Love and the city or Marriage and the city.
respect each other and love each other. be honest and upfront about your thoughts and feelings. i don't want a woman who orders me around and i dont want a women who lets me order her around. give me a healthy 50-50 relationship. i want a woman who will love and respect me and who i can love and respect no matter what.
one more thing- don't base your life off of astrology. it's useful to know basic things about a person's personality, but it's little more than that. on that note, good article for the most part, but i prefer to hear the comments-real life experiences as opposed to what the "stars say".
its for that gemini lady who wrote above lines abt cancer males....i m a cancer but i always believe in expressing feelings bluntly.....and very openly expressing them physically......yes v r at distance first bur once v say about our love for some one infront of that special one thn v never look back in expressing our feelings in any way phisically,verbally,emotionally,sexully.......because romance and sex is in our nature/blood.you r very very extremely lucky if you got a true cncer man to love.
Dear Taurus,
Thank you again for your kind words. I am familiar with the book, and while I think Ms. Argov makes some good points, I still feel that men and women are individuals, and that a generalization about men, in my mind, is about as valid as any generalization made about women. I think it's possible for a woman to command respect and still show her feelings, the same way I don't see a successful man who expresses himself as any less of a man. The way you frame it makes it into two extremes and I do think there exists a happy medium. Indifference or distance might generate short term intrigue, but someone with a healthy self-esteem is not going to want to stick around someone who doesn't show mutual interest and growth. I also feel it's the differences between people that often make a relationship work, someone's extroversion balances someone's introversion, someone's open-ness balances someone's fears. Are there really any rules? For example, the "no sex on the first date" rule. I know several happy couples that ended up sleeping together the first time they met, and while it's not something I would make a practice of, my point is that there's really no reason or logic as to how people end up together. Chemistry is either there or it's not, and no amount of strategy is going to change that. When a man wants you and isn't afraid to show it, he's showing you that he thinks you're the prize, and it's a demonstration of his own confidence, and we all know that that confidence is a tried and true winner in the dating dept. I know a lot of beautiful girls who (at least on the physical level) outshine the men they're with and people can't figure out how they ended up together, my answer is that those men made those women feel wanted, beautiful and loved - and in turn they ended up with a gorgeous amazing woman.
Taurus, I appreciate your care and concern. Good wishes and best of luck to you. May you also find the man of your dreams :)
I am a Cancer woman and what you say about a Cancer male is true to some point. I think its all how the person was raise. I was involved with a very irresponsable Cancer male. He is very dominant, controlling, and selfish. He can be nice when he wants to be if he is getting his way. He can't think for himself or make responsible decision. I have to do all the thinking. He is not romantic and can never think of ways to be romantic. He other issue is he does not listen. His credit was horrible. Maybe its because of the planets that was in his sign at the time of his birth. He has Leo in her birthchart.
I wonder what happened to the cancer man I had?
All the Cancer men I dated were soppy losers.
My Cansermale, is all about intensity and emotions AND lojalty
HE JUST understand me, without words, amazing.
He has Moon in Scorpio and Venus in Taurus, so he is of the marrying kind;.)...I love him and we will be married next year..He accept me for who I AM...and this is a man you cant let go.He accept all of me, without words. He is one of a kind
I am a Scorpio woman dating a Cancer man. I've dated 2 other cancers before and there was always chemestry, but if I had known then about cancer and their sensitive sides I'd probably still be with my first cancer boyfriend.
I used to mistake their sensitive sides with weakness or "being to soft". Now I understand that there is a big difference between being senstive, emotional and romantic and being weak and soft. there is nothing but greatness with my Cancer man now. I understand him inside and out and this is by far the best realtionship I've ever had. We've only been together for about 3 months and it feels like we've known each other our whole lives. He proposed and we are getting married.....:-)
I'm a scorpio woman been in love with my cancer man for 27 yrs and counting. It's been a whirlwind of all kinds of emotions. We meant surposely to have a one nightstand.I was shy he took complete control. I luv him for that but the only time i stray from him is when my needs weren't met. believe or not I cheated with two other cancer men. I fell for them both trying to rekindle what i had with my cancer lover.... but foolishly i just set my self up when my affairs ended... there was my cancer lover of 27yrs right by my side to console me, wipe my tears away, completely understanding and forgiving.Because he knew i was looking for him in them. At that time he couldn't be there for me like he knew he should have been. Everyone have there ups and downs.Now I'm devoted to him only to death and beyond.......
Along with the good comes the bad. They run hot and cold. They disappear off the face of the earth and you're left wondering what the hell happened. They only contact you in THEIR own time, they know what to say, and they use that to their advantage.
They retreat into their shells and it's like u didn't exist. They make it seem like ur the bad guy, and 'ur hurting them' even when you have every right to be frustrated with them (telling them u don't like it when they disappear for like a week on end -_-) I can go on and on.. But what's keeping me hooked? They have all those qualities listed and so much more. Darn lol.
Dear Miranda, that's not a cancer - that's just not a man - ie: that's a jerk with problems. I can deal with issues, but I need someone to man up. I am not perfect, but I try to be the best I can, and although not always successful, I never give up trying to be better. My Mom once told me what she loved the most about my Dad, was the fact that while he was not perfect, he never gave up trying to be better.
Believe it or not, a lot of people don't try - or aren't willing to take a good hard look at themselves - because as the saying goes - the truth hurts.
I'm 52, and have known a Cancer male for probably 20 years casually - (I've always been secretly attracted to him) Recently we've been thrown together through business, and he has totally mesmerized me. I am a Capricorn with moon in Scorpio. Wondering if I should let him know I think about him most of the time or just wait to see if he pounces. Any ideas?
I have been dating a cancer guy for the past two months now and I think I'm falling for him even though initially I told him I have no intentions of getting into a relationship. Now, the case is that he flirts, treats me like a princess and then doesnt say he too is falling for me. Then, one fine day he tells me that he really likes me (and also said why the hell would he keep dating me if he didn't), and he's behaved like a jerk for not asking me out..However, he needs to get over with his ex (he broke up with her abt 3 months back) and doesnt want our relationship to fall apart in 3-4 months time as he isn't sure and I dont deserve a breakup. Sometimes, I feel he really cares for me and sometimes he asks me to date someone else so that he gets over with his crush on me. I don't know how to handle this situation.. He's a nice guy..n I love being with him.. But from what I can decipher is that he just isn't serious about getting into a relationship. I don't want to get too emotionally involved with him if he is not serious as I am a very sensitive girl. Also, like a typical cancerian he displays his hard shell and I do know there is a very sensitive heart behind it..Please help!
Lovely_Girl
This article is just too much. I cannot believe how the author get these informations. every single detail is talking about my BF.
To those Cancer males!! look for Virgo women who have cancer rising. you will be amazed...........
A cancer male crash on me some years ago but quietly. He finally and successfully made me say " I love you " to him. We had had friendship for about two years and now intimate lover as more than 8 months.
Strange enough, we have never met until today. He lives somewhere other part of the world. Interesting? more interesting news...we will marry and make a child when we can.
cancer male is somewhat demanding. they do not want to take risk in love affair. Their biggest fear is to have relationship with someone who is lack of motherly love. They are too emotional, and need understanding from their mate. It is Essential.
Hmmm I would have to say this is pretty much on point... I dated a cancer male for three years. I am a Gemini, I feel as if he drained me a little bit. But he is extremely loyal, but overly sensitive.
the cancer male is mean, a man who cannot take responsibility for their actions or be lucid enough to see the error of their ways and the hurt they cause, out of their own selfishness. I have given love, I have given understanding, and a cancer male is not worth it. He is a waste of time who does not know how to give, yet expects someone to give in return. We had a connection but he is messed up and needs help. I would have helped him but he cannot be trusted and acts shady. I felt like I was falling in love with him but hes a player that doens't deserve it. He knows hes selfish and he doesn't care - he's happy that way. Let him be that way - alone, selfish, or with a person as messed up and selfish as he is.He cannot be trusted
well, i am a virgo && im 17 yrs old..my boyfriend and i started of as friends && stayed that way for a while and then i started to lke him more than a friend nn soo i asked him out.. at first he told me that he didnt wanta hurt me..so we didnt date then later i saw that he really lked me soo i asked him again..that tme he said yea..when we became friends he had trouble expressing his feelings to me but after a while when he felt he could trust me, he was telling me how beautiful i was and how much he loved me. Now he's in college as a freshman and im in high school as a sr and we stll date..but its sort of long distance he tells me dat he promises me that he is not cheating on me and that hi is a man of his word..also, i always tell him i love him just to reassure him that even though i dont see him that i stll care for him alot...what do you think?? anyone
Hi
I am a taurus female and in a relationship with a cancer man ....
I have to say he has all the qualities that I am looking for and he is so affectionate....he is not afraid of using the word "we" which makes me feel really good inside. but I am just worried if he will get bored of this quite yet loving relationship ...
anyways your information really helps me understand him a little bit more :)
thank you !
I don't understand. I'm a 34-year-old cancer male and I'm more awesome now than I've ever been before. Why focus only on 21 to 28-year-olds? We cancers ripen and improve with age, like a fine cheese (mmmm, cheeeeeese).
I was reading this and it is pretty accurate. I am a Cancer male. I can see myself showing a women what real love is and treating her with respect. I am very romantic, creative and visual and set the stage in the bedroom giving her my full attention and throwing my heart into it.
Anonymous,
LOL! I think you misunderstood. The age range that is referenced represents the perspective from which a Cancer male views life . . . regardless of his age, mentally, he perpetually views life from the perspective of a 21-28 year old man. . . if he's 60, he'll still view life and feel as if he's 21-28.
Ah, now I understand. And, I believe it's true. :-)
can you please post about Libra male
please! please! please! please! do libra male next thank you
Cancer will be secure only when their bank account has plenty of money. He won't go for early marriage without securing his finance.
He wants true love, motherly love, but you must posses a strong personality at the same time. Because he just can't stand weak women. so if you want cancer, make sure you treat him as your little brother. He will never leave you.
met a cancer male year ago at a bar we had nice time chatting. I am scorpio female. when I was leaving on my motorcycle he asked me out and I said if we met again I would. well I didnt go back to this bar for a long time. But one evening I was in there and the guy across the bar sent me a drink and when he came over it was this same cancer and he remebered me. so I laughed and I gave him my number. Amazing! I normally have a deep level of detachment but I couldnt get enough of him. One month, one week, one day, one-derful. Then I get invited to go to this party with hin on the way he explains to me how he got there twenty something daughter pregnant the past year. Okay Where's the whiskey please. Being a scorpio I showed little tried to bluff my way through the evening. Had not eaten all day just so I could get everything done and make the party. Couldnt eat after that little revelation. But I drank alot. well he was playing poker in the other room. and the guys who were not playing poker were following me around. I did sit on his lap for a period of time but come on that was not going to work for six hours. Needles to say I got very drunk asked him for my keys at midnight not sure he could tell I was drunk. He didnt ask to go with me or why I wanted to leave( I thought He might have been Jealouse of my entourage, not trying to make him that way) so after I left I went to his place I tried to get in and retrieve some lingerie and shoes wich I did and boy was he mad! he wont talk to me but texted me to stay away from him. okay I can do that but damn I miss him. any hope or should I find distraction and move on?
I am with a cancerian male and i am a cancerian woman. My goodness i was laughing wen i read this coz it describes my boo too a t.OMG he can sulk and be NEEDY, but the good thing is that i understand him and can tell him so. we are engaged but we are having trouble with my and his parents. Gosh he is a gem but wen caught in a lie he can transform into sumthing else. i do hope that we will b happy together and i do believe that we will be together for a while.
LOL thats me, so much so i have to stay in my shell for fear of many women mistaking my natural nurturing nature for love. Jeez, i feel read deeper than a history book.
Please do a post for the Capricorn female! Thank you!
Help please!!! For easier reading, Ive decided to type my ordeal with the cancer male in point form! Im scorpio female. Its killing me!
. Im 4 yr older than cancer male whos 22
. He has already told me that he likes me but HAS STARTED TO DRIFT AWAY since he knows of another guy existence. Claims that I cheated on him even though I did not.
. Use to play the guitar to me over the phone, invite me over to cook, nudges me once I log on to IM, being very interested in the beginning but no longer all these now.
. We dont meet up, and he takes ages to reply to my text messages. Rejects everytime I take initiative. ALWAYS DO NOT LISTEN, WANTS THINGS HIS WAY, DISRESPECTFUL, VERY EMOTIONAL
. MOST are girls on his IM.
. Says that I am his greatest nightmare and wants me to get out of his life and when I went on a holiday (to forget him and move on) and did not contact him at all for 4 days, he said I suddenly disappeared and now I want to come back into his life when he has moved on. He was the one who gave me a missed call on the 4th day, I called back and he said he just wanted to inform me of a job offer hes got.
. I know hes been reading my tweets on my blog because he asked if I went on a holiday.
. Told him that I missed him alot and that I do want to be with him.
. Lots of quarrelling. Now he says he just wants his career, when last week, it was his career than me. Now he just wants to be friends and nothing more. He realises that its not love for me.
QUESTIONS:
Im so so so upset and I dream of his rejecting and hurtful words. I know he can be a sweet guy like he was in the beginning.
- What should I do now to get his attention again???
- Is there a chance with this cancer guy again?
- Do you guys think that he still likes me?
WHAT SHOULD I DO!???
Okay, this is REALLY weird. I am an Aquarius who is falling for a younger Cancer guy. I guess this is not a good thing.I can't help it,he just does something to me, physically, mentally, and emotionally. I totally admire all his traits and believe I can give him the nurturing he wants (maybe cuz I'm older than him) I think it could be crazy good. How does this happen and could it really work?
ANONYMOUS
I would think that you've answered your own questions. If you like him(and of course if he likes you) then why would it not work. :) Good luck friend
I have been so emotionally numb until one night I messaged someone new. Turns out he was a cancer. Before I knew it, I could feel my heart beat, could't eat and it was like nothing I have ever felt and I couldn't understand it. Of course he says he doesn't want a relationship but over the course of the week, he slowly releases info that he's pining over a libra that wants nothing to do with him. He feels like she is his soul mate and that if she does not love him then in 2 years he will kill himself. All the while, before he opened up enough to tell me about this mysterious one he had been writing all his sad poems about, we were talking in the first few days about sex and a possible vacation meeting together so long as I didn't cross certain boundries of attachment or whatever. It seems hopeless and the whole situation just seems wrong yet my heart is still beating for him. I feel like I could be there for him supportively even if he did get another relationship. I don't know why I can't just pull away. I don't know if he just wanted sex and amusement from me or what but I feel hope that he wanted to open up about that much at least. I wished I could help him. I don't know what to do now and I am so confused about the whole thing.
im a cancer male. and this is all really freaky scary. but ladies, dont be clingy and we will chase you.. . .no joke. its one of them attraction rule things ive learned along the way.
Hi i'm a sagi girl and for the last 18 months ive been sharing a flat with a male cancer. His moon is in cancer and so is his venus and i think he is so sexy well not sexy i dont know how to describe it, all i can say is very very shagable and his personality wow hes so funny, witty and charming or at least he was.
Hes been single for 3 months after breaking up with his cancer girlfriend of 4 years oh the drama! we all got really drunk and seperated from each other while out clubbing, me and him came back to the flat at the same time and he found his girlfriend in his bed being pounded by some random bloke. I had never seen anything like it. he didnt get angry, he didnt say anything and he didnt cry. He just slumped down agaisnt the wall infront of his open door and sat there like a corpse, while i removed the random bloke who was in full swing. (i locked him outside with none of his clothes it was so funny well i thoguht it was) Ever since he has just been in a state of well nothing its like he is devoid of personality. All he does is sit in his room getting stoned, painting the most depressing looking abstract paintings i think ive ever seen and then he either rips them up or puts them on ebay. He wont go out, i cant get him drunk and hes just not the man he used to be.
My question is this, how can i cheer him up? no scratch that, how can i get in bed with him? i think all he needs is a bit of fun, any suggestions? :)
Hi Sagi girl,
What a horribly painful, shameful and humiliating experience for a Cancer male to go through. I can tell you're a Sagittarius . . . because you're not taking this very seriously. I mean you no disrespect, it's just that Sag is so eternally optimistic that sometimes, it overshadows real human emotions.
That Sag optimism is having you believe that this emotional Cancer male can simply pull himself out of this funk - by having fun and having sex. Although a typical Sag reaction, not so for the emotional Cancer water sign. He's got some real feelings and painful emotions that he's attempting to deal with at the moment and honestly, attempting to make light of the situation and trying to manipulate him into bed right now - will probably backfire on you. He was in love, he was humiliated in front of friends and peers, he was emasculated by another man, he if full of shame, hurt, anger, fear . . . and sometimes those things are hard for a Sag to understand. This Cancer man's emotions run very deep, trust me. And he's grappling with issues of insecurity, fear, anxiety and shame right now. The last thing on his mind is probably sex. He's healing, and he will retreat into his shell in order to do so.
If you want to get near him in any sort of a romantic way . . . you need to LISTEN to him. Don't brush his feelings under the carpet and then mop them up with a romp in the hay. Talk, listen, let him confide, give him your honest opinions as a woman and as a friend and most of all, give him your support. Position yourself. Make sure you're the one he comes to in his times of need. After a horrific experience like that, I can guarantee you that he's looking for stability in a woman - not flakiness and irresponsibility. You need to be his rock. You need to prove to him that you can take things seriously and deal with them accordingly. You need to be strong for him and resilient. If you come off with that Sag optimisim in a way that looks flighty, irresponsible and like you're not taking this event as seriously as he is - then you're not going to land that Sagi arrow in this crab guy.
Keywords: stability, honesty, trustworthiness, listening, healing, talking, confiding, emotions. He also has a Cancer moon. . . so you can GUARANTEE that this was a CRUSHING emotional blow for him, not to mention a real humiliating blow to his manhood. He is hurt and anything that comes off looking inconsiderate of that will not impress him. He needs a gentle hand and a supportive listener. What he doesn't need right now is to be manipulated by another woman, so be very, very careful of your next move with him.
At this point, your best bet is to be his friend and a complete and total support system for him. And then once he's healed, he'll be able to take notice of how solid of a woman you've been and how you've been there for him in a time of need. I think if you play it like that, you'll have much better luck here. But whatever you do, don't make light of the situation or come off looking inconsiderate of his emotions.
Thanks for the advice i tried talking to him today about how he felt and he said he was fine. So we watched a film and smoked a few joints in his room at the end of the film i asked him again if he was ok and he said no he wishes he just wont wake up one morning and how it was his fault!!! Because he wasnt a good enough boyfriend blah blah blah he should have tried harder blah he should have been better in bed blah blah.
Which is a pile of self pitty bs, i think hes the only guy ive ever known who actually makes an effort after bring in a relationship for years. for example riding his mountain bike from london to her house which is about 40 miles! because he refuses to pay for a train ticket for no reason other than to bring her her fav flours and to see her...
I tried to be supportive and caring i told him that he was an exelent boyfriend to her, that he did make an effort (using the above example) and that i thought he would be very good in bed with that his mood sort of changed everything looked like i might get my wish. And then i said that he shouldnt feel this way over a girl who cried far far too often over the stupist things (she used to cry ALOT shes probably crying now in her sleep), had funny teeth and was never happy for more than 5 mins. which is true!
With that he got up put his coat on and walked out of the flat leaving me in his room. That was at 10:30 pm ish now its neally 3 am and he still hasnt come home.
AHHHHH this boy drives me crazy! what did i do wrong? i was supportive and nice, i spent time with him while he made me feel truly depressed and yet he storms off like i just insulted his mother! AHHHHHHHHHHHH
I would like to hear more Gemini female/Cancer male experiences. The good, the bad, and the ugly... I am very satisfied with my cancer male and he's in love with me... I am very compatible with him.. Im June 16th 1983 and he's june 22,1990.
This is very strange... I'm a transgendered male (born female) and I was curious as to which gender fit me... my boyfriend and I agree the female profile sounds NOTHING like me, but the MALE fits me to a T!!
Does this mean I was supposed to be born a boy after all...?
... This is very strange...
I'm a cancer, transgendered male (born female)
But my boyfriend was the one who showed me these blogs... and we both agree the cancer female sounds nothing like me, but the cancer MALE fits me to a T!!!
Does this mean I was supposed to be born male...?
In addition, I am currently with my second Virgo male... and I couldn't be happier.
July 12, 1991
Help! I'm an Aquarius girl who willingly started a "friends with benefits" arrangement with a Cancer guy. From what I've read, we are not very compatable Problem is, I have fallen for him hard. There are many times when I think he might feel the same and others where he makes a point to let me know we aren't. How am I supposed to know where we stand, he doesn't talk openly.
Goin' crazy here.
What nonsense. I don't understand why every astrology chart about Cancer has some sort of mother fixation. Personally I like them young not old : )
Anonymous,
The physical age of a partner has nothing to do with being mothered by one. . . females young and old are all capable of mothering someone.
It's about the concept of "mothering" - not about the age.
I am a pisces girl who is in a relationship with a cancer man. I love him with everything that I am but we have been arguing for so long that its come to a point where I dont even know if there is a relationship. He stopped being the man I met. Was sweet, kind, so loving and went out of his way to do things for me. Once the issues started he stopped that, and I have been having a hard time dealing with that. Being a Pisces, I constantly like knowing that I am loved and that a man would always be thoughtful. I gave alot and sacrifice alot for this relationship. I knew he was the one but cant say that he feels the same if he says he doesnt know anymore. I am so hurt and dont know what to do. We are on a break right now and it has been so hard to not contact him. Everytime I've texted and called him no answer and I feel even more stupid for trying. I decided to leave him alone and give him his space knowing that cancer men need to think when they are upset. How long can a cancer man really stay mad at you? I love him and am willing to wait.
Hi Anonymous(pisces girl) :)
I would think it all depends on the 'issues' that you mentioned. It's non of my business to ask either. lol but I think if these issues are the differences between the two of you, then perhaps it is that. Do you accept this person for all he is? Does he accept you for all you are? I have had the realization that being with another individual is chosing to be with someone who is different from yourself(ha I know common sense right?). Is it that he does not respect your differences? If so then he does not realize that you are not his shadow, you are not his reflection in the mirror, you're not his own individuality. You are two very different people indeed. If that is not the issue, then I apologize for answering so blindly lol :)
I am an Aquarius in some kind of "relationship" with a Cancer guy. He is always sarcastic but the closer we get, the more sarcastic he gets. It's hard to explain, but I think it's how he lets me know he cares more and more. Sick, I know but I think I understand him. Is this normal for a Cancer guy?
Hi Aquarius. I wouldn't think there be a norm for any person. Everyone has there own way of showing how there care. It may be in a natural way, or even a gross immature way as you explained. Perhaps that is the only way he knows how to express his caring nature, or who knows. One thing is good though, and that is the possibility of change. Meaning that aspect, or any other of a person. Isn't that beautiful. Anyways, if it doesn't hurt, try engaging in a conversation about it with your friend. :)
Cancer
My own show of caring is quite direct I'd describe. It's obvious, loving. Not to be egoistic or anything. :) just in case you were wondering.
There are mature people as well as immature people. Yet both are still so ignorant. ^_^
Thanks, TheEternalLover, wish he was more like you that way. I guess Cancers can take their time to let someone "in" and he has shared a lot. He is exactly like the description of a Cancer man except he can't come right out with his feelings. He seems to want me to know he cares by the huge amount of attention he gives me and a look that he gives when he talks to me.
Never met anybody like him before, and trying to figure it out. Thanks again.
Aquarius
Hi Aquarius :) I have read a couple of descriptions that seem to ring true. They explained how the cancers 'dance'(courting) is something like that of a crab. ^_^ lol side stepping, observing the situation from every angle until one is sure that it is safe to proceed. I can clarify this because that is how I've been courting a certain female recently. It feels natuaral. Perhaps he wants to be sure of you. There may also be fear of rejection so this may be his way of overcoming this fear at the time. And yes that look you mentioned!! :) it's quite obvious you've caught this persons eye. Good luck with your situation friend.
Enjoy the moments
Thanks again TheEternalLover, you're awesome for taking time to let me know that. You Cancers have a lot of qualities that I admire. (Oh, do you love getting compliments as much as "my" guy? If he looks good, smells good, or does something, I notice and tell him. He loves it. Being an Aquarius, Im comfortable with open and honest. (That's why the "dance" is difficult for me. I remain hopeful. Best of luck to you friend.
Hello Aquarius. I would think that mostly everyone would enjoy a sincere compliment. Woudln't you?! :D lol thank you for sharing your moments with me friend.
Cancer Man..I dated 2 of them and I am a Leo girl and yes, they know what women wants with their sweet talk, hugging,loving constantly call and text made me feel they are in my world and they are the man that I want to bring home and tell mom i want to be with him for the rest of my life..!!!
"But beware, the more a Cancer male feels safe with his queen ruler, the more apt he may be to play out his darker fantasies elsewhere"..it is so right about it..
I found out both of them a cheater,liar,drunker and emotional manipulated age range 21-39. when they are young, they like to have an affair with hookers,strippers & even shemales or ex girlfriends..they never let them go and at the same time they r still looking for Ms.Cinderella and save her of his marriage..
Like it says : Mr.Nice Guy "This is a hidden agenda that he wears under a cloak of dashing good looks, morals and manners. After all, a Cancer man is considered "The Player" by Sextrology and he hopes to inspire a motherly love from his intended queen.
Watch out the cancerian young men..love to be needed..emotional & sexual needed, even they have enough but still looking..
Dont wait for Cancer Man if he is out of your hand since he is Mr.Nice Guy so he can have many admirors before you know.
You want to be there and wait for him then it is fine because he likes constantly to be needed. But you will be his second thoughts when he plays w/others..until somebody dumps him then he thinks to go back with you for support his emotional and sexual needs.. so good luck
ah hah, i like this quote:
Cancer man = the hero ~ tailor made to the specifications of a woman's wishes.
What make they have more Post comments than other male zodiac sign??...a red flag for all women..they are so perfect that suit our needs and forget their darkness naughty sides..
I'm kind of laughing about all the postings by girls who don't know what to do about their strange cancer men. I am a cancer male and I have definitely displayed some of those behaviors you've described. Alas, I have no answers for you. We're just a whacky bunch. I will say that i think most of us learn to deal with our strange emotions as we get older. At least I hope I have. Good luck!
T.
Hi T,
What you mean by we don't know what to do about your strange zodiac sign?. Yeah, we know and all the women in this world should stop giving you the support for your emotional strange needy mama type & stop seeing you when you have a whacky weirdo relashionship 2 for free and stop feeding you everyday for your comfort until you get so old and no women chasing you then you wish to die and become difference male zodiac sign then at that time you may have luck from us, if you lucky enough not to born as a whacky cancer in a bunch..hahhhhah..At least, we just hope..
But I admire about your honesty here about you(Cancer) have definitely displayed some of those behaviors like we've describe here.:). See, we be trapped & fall in love w/you again by your honesty after confest being a bad boy..No, you don't need to have an answer for us..we just know after being w/u and ready for a serious marathon..run away from you, a dangerous sweet American pie..hehhehe.
This is quite accurate. If ladies just give us a chance, they'll be shocked at what they almost missed out on. Cancerians: the zodiac's best kept secret...
There is only chance when you are a bad (Cancer) guy that we give it to you is a COMPLETYLY BREAK after indulge you with "mother may I" role that you will never forget and miss the time so comfort w/us and that u can never arrase your own self memories or give u a heavy dose of an electric shock that wake you up from the hopeless romantic forever lost or your daydreams about your fairytales cinderella even when you are w/us. After a long chase of your daydreams,you wake up and realize that what you missed out is a comfort lost from us..we already gone for a hunt to indulge other lovely males zodiac that all women suppose to do when they meet a whacky male cancer.!!!
Hello, appreciate the post about Cancer men! Although I don't exactly like the exposure of some of our more low-key courting tactics, haha. As far as the description goes I’m pretty much a clean cut cancer. I’m a momas boy most certainly, I’m very introverted as far as emotions go, and very good at hiding my intentions and deflecting the worst with my shell. The reason as to my post is that I’m looking for a little, well a lot of, H.E.L.P with some issues I’m having right now. I’m currently involved with a Scorpio female (not dating, but intimate at “times”) and I’m having trouble understanding this complicated situation.
We came across each other almost accidently, both just got out of pretty tough relationships (mine with Taurus, hers with Aquarius) and hooked up a few times. Its been quite an interesting experience to say the least! (especially trying to “keep up” in bed haha) When we get a chance to be together, it is a very intimate and close encounter, but I’m always left kind of thinking “so whats next?”. Though I am not really interested in getting too emotionally involved, being a cancer, its hard for me not to. Like I said before, getting out of the first relationship had been very tough for me, watching my ex of many years flirt and and in some cases sleep with, people I used to think as friends (humbling). That whole experience sort of killed my respect for the opposite sex (sorry girls), and at times for relationships in general. But, I did get over it thank god and I’m probably a more sound person because of it. So here lies my problem, when we are together, alone, everything is wonderful and I couldn’t ask for more. She enjoys the intimacy I bring to the table and responds well to it ;). Yet, out at other social events, where there are other people around I feel almost less than a friend. I’m ignored almost to the point of no eye contact! I just want to know if this is a game Scorpio’s play?
Is this a way of her telling me she likes me? Or is this a way of telling me to back off? Should I be pursuing her or just let her be? Keep in mind I’m not looking to get hurt (who is?) but for me its monumental. I don’t understand and I really need some outside influence and help! Due to reasons I can’t discuss, I haven’t had a chance to talk about this with any of my friends, or anyone at all to be exact. We are sort of at that junction where if we keep hanging out together, it could very well turn into something more than what it is, yet if I stop talking to her, no one would be the wiser. Like I said before, I’m very good at concealing my emotions/agenda, its just that she is better than me at doing so! Sorry I tried to keep it short and sweet sorry if it feels that I went rambling on lol. Please help. Thank you.
J
Hello, appreciate the post about Cancer men! Although I don't exactly like the exposure of some of our more low-key courting tactics, haha. As far as the description goes I’m pretty much a clean cut cancer. I’m a momas boy most certainly, I’m very introverted as far as emotions go, and very good at hiding my intentions and deflecting the worst with my shell. The reason as to my post is that I’m looking for a little, well a lot of, H.E.L.P with some issues I’m having right now. I’m currently involved with a Scorpio female (not dating, but intimate at “times”) and I’m having trouble understanding this complicated situation.
We came across each other almost accidently, both just got out of pretty tough relationships (mine with Taurus, hers with Aquarius) and hooked up a few times. Its been quite an interesting experience to say the least! (especially trying to “keep up” in bed haha) When we get a chance to be together, it is a very intimate and close encounter, but I’m always left kind of thinking “so whats next?”. Though I am not really interested in getting too emotionally involved, being a cancer, its hard for me not to. Like I said before, getting out of the first relationship had been very tough for me, watching my ex of many years flirt and and in some cases sleep with, people I used to think as friends (humbling).
That whole experience sort of killed my respect for the opposite sex (sorry girls), and at times for relationships in general. But, I did get over it thank god and I’m probably a more sound person because of it. So here lies my problem, when we are together, alone, everything is wonderful and I couldn’t ask for more. She enjoys the intimacy I bring to the table and responds well to it ;). Yet, out at other social events, where there are other people around I feel almost less than a friend. I’m ignored almost to the point of no eye contact! I just want to know if this is a game Scorpio’s play? Is this a way of her telling me she likes me? Or is this a way of telling me to back off? Should I be pursuing her or just let her be? Keep in mind I’m not looking to get hurt (who is?) but for me its monumental. I don’t understand and I really need some outside influence and help! Due to reasons I can’t discuss, I haven’t had a chance to talk about this with any of my friends, or anyone at all to be exact. We are sort of at that junction where if we keep hanging out together, it could very well turn into something more than what it is, yet if I stop talking to her, no one would be the wiser. Like I said before, I’m very good at concealing my emotions/agenda, its just that she is better than me at doing so! Sorry I tried to keep it short and sweet sorry if it feels that I went rambling on lol. Please help. Thank you.
J
Hello J,
You and your ex(Taurus) is a good match in zodiac sign but you both tend jealous. YOu also a very good match w/Scopio but their requirement you would be the steadfast knowledge that you posses astonishing handsome appeal, a powerful force, and ultimately a higher spiritual consciousness. Your Scorpio is attracted to power, so if you have it, you are ahead of the game.
Scopio women is very private, very independent, and mysterious. Most scopio women is like to play the seduction games to make you feel like you want them more, at the same times they have some issues with trust and insecurity as burned badly a couple times. The key to their heart is trust & space..Believe me, they know instantly you are the most match zodiac sign for them, even they don't show it out.
Sometimes they find cancer man hardly to read their mind, so they play the game to see how you feel for them if you make them fall in love w/you they never let you go. she is true-blue loyal and will expect the same from you. If you show her the slightest reason to distrust you, however, she will never forgive & will make you live in hell. Good luck
Go ahead with your scorpio girl this year. This is the most lucky year for them in love from a long time. They have very tough love couple years in the past, especially last year. It seems like most Cancer & Scorpio round up this year..new love or ex & ex come back together & be very happy. But also depend on how much trust & all your love you will give it to her then she will give the same amount back. Dont cheating on her or you will have an intense sting that is so terminal, it reduces her mate to a castrated pile of rubble. You'll definitely feel the sting of an unhappy Scorpio female.
Also be careful with your generous sperm because this is the most easy year for them to fertilize or intend to have baby. Good news or Bad is all up to you Cancer!
Dont cheating on her, she will release a sting that is so terminal, it reduces her mate to a castrated pile of rubble. You'll definitely feel the sting of an unhappy Scorpio female if you involve with her.
WOW! This is crazy. I feel like all the Cancer guys spoken about in every article on the net is the Cancer guy I like. I've been close friend with him for 12 mths. It only ocurred to me in the past 4 months how much I like him. A month ago, we had sex on two occassions. Stupid me blurted out in an emal how much I like him...I contained it for so long then bursted. He replied by saying he can only see me as a friend...i'm confused..he displayed signals of liking me over those months too. Well, he hasn't come near me since. He acts like nothing happened, and even his communication isn't how it use to be. He still visits as usual...I just dont get it I just don't know what to do...=(
Cancer Confused
Hi Anonymous. If your cancer man is still coming around after these sexual events then I'd think he is just as confused as you. His reason, I don't know. Only way to find out is to ask.
0mg!! This is so friggin SCARYYY!! This is DEAD ACCURATE on my cancer ex boyfriend! IM sad to say DAMM he really is THAT GOOD! And i was fooled the whole time, i still am. Im dead set on getting him back! Hes mine! Can nobody get back a cancer male like THe SCORPIO FEMALE! THis boyz MINE! ;)
You are close friend with him in 12 months and he hasnt firgured out to be with you as a girlfriend then I guess, you is still keeping as his friend as many years to come because you are not his dreamgirl. Maybe you confused his displayed signals of liking you over those months because Cancer is a sweet,hugging loving type and to every women as you read all the article about Cancer man. My ex(cancer) boyfriend said to me he loves me all the time and treated me like a princess but I found out he did text to his ex he said he loves her too and she called me she said " we love eachother everytime we were together!!!". So you can firgure out they are all confused and made all women confused too and the worst your(cancer) friend hasnt say he loves you yet so dont be confused..just keep looking for other soul mate because in his mind he doesnt consider you are the one and here is their quote: "Just be friend so we can have sex and feel emotional secure, I just want to be your teddy bear and I always got your back, by the way I like to take your time & your space, & your food too if i can."
Wow .... I enjoyed this reading this whole page. My dad is a cancer...but this is not about him. Last summer as I was walking home I did a 2 point turn on the side walk and change my normal route of walking home from the subway. I planed to go down a particular street and all of a sudden changed my mind when I saw another street. I was walking and someone called to me.. I slowed down.. didn't look back and heard the voice closer because he had come over to me on the sidewalk. He was so handsome when I decided to look up at him.. and so tall and beautiful smile and everything. He gave me his number and supposedly wanted to see me the same night.. well when I called later no answer... and then he called me two days later saying how he didn't have his phone and that he wanted to hang out... then at about 10pm he mentioned something about how he has to cancel because his sisters tongue ring is acting up and how he needed to help her... then he called back 30 mins later and was able to come again. He got me took me to a spot ( not where he stays) and we had the most amazing 6 hour non physical hangout with just music ...us doing freestyles... it was amazing and unforgetable. I wanted breakfast so we went and then he took me home.... so that means we hung out all night. The next time I saw him was about a month later when he called me up to hang out.. I went to his car and saw that he had a guy friend with him... which was unexpected ... I played along and jumped in the car...he wanted to go to an outdoor festival and at the same time they were hungry so we went to eat... I drank wine and they ate...we ended up making out right there because I was sooo smashed off the red wine and no real food for about two days prior due to illness. We we so cozy together .. I held his arm as I crossed the road and he loosened the grip to hold my hand.. we walked ( me him and his friend ) lol we looked like such a hot couple... LATER that day when we ended up alone.. he told me not to wear my heart on my sleeve.. not even for him.. and he mention that he recently had sex... and somewhere in all that he was kind off all over me.... me being tipsy still... didn't process everything and was just in the moment. He didn't really contact me during all of this.. and I did some travelling and when I got back another month later I wanted my sweater I'd left in his car.
Hah, you wanna get back with your cancer man. I will give you a tips, uh because I am a leo and I like cancer man but no patient being fool around by them. I am starting an adventure w/another sign more compatible w/mine. My ex was a Cancer and his ex is a scorpio. what she did is being a good friend w/benifit, good listener & give him a lots of attention by calling him five times a day,listen his pullshits non sence & come to pick him up at the bars 2am when he got drunk..blah blah..you have to be patient because he is mama boy type..wha wha wha..By the way, seduce him w/sexy lingeries everytime & text him w/naughty text messages & cook & feed him that what she did to him for ONE YEAR to get him back totally but only when I said I didnt want him anymore. He kept her as his discreet whore until she couldnt take it and called me to confront their secret friendship. After that night I dumped him & she gets him now but not sure he will be w/her because I know him he is a liar & cheater soon he got comfortable w/her. He will find another victim..he's still keep calling me after a month break-up and acting like nothing happened such as "can we be friend..I still want to be friend w/you!!"..typical cancer man..I said NO because I am a sexy beautiful Leo w/ Jlo ass & big tits..hahah, I can get any man I want why should i want to be w/a clown and being a fool. Leo women can not take the cheats..if I want to be w/ a Cancer man, I will wait until he is 45 and that time he would grow up & muture maybe..good luck, my friend & be careful w/mr.Huggie.
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